You’ll See – Madonna
At twenty-one, I was a bright, vivacious, and confident young woman. A high achiever, a leader – I was going places. I met a handsome, intelligent, and charming man. He swept me off my feet. He quickly professed his everlasting love and told me no one would ever love me like he did.
I believed him.
Over time, he started questioning me. Why are you wearing that dress? Why do you want to cut your hair? Who was that guy talking to you at the party? Had he been your lover?
On and on the questions came, till finally, I admitted to having several lovers before him. I simultaneously felt defiant and ashamed. It angered me that I didn’t have the same sexual freedom as men, but I accepted his wrath as justified.
He didn’t leave. I didn’t leave either. I was told I was damaged goods. Now when he told me that no one would ever love me like he did, I believed him. I felt unsure and unworthy. Despite his ongoing criticism, I couldn’t see a way out, I couldn’t see that I deserved to be treated with love and respect all of the time, not just some of the time. So I stayed.
Kim Anami holistic sex + relationship coach
Sheri Winston Center for the Intimate Arts
Websites/Blogs geared toward mature women:
Woman’s Anatomy of Arousal by Sheri Winston